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Aundi Kolber

Aundi Kolber

About Me

Hi there, I’m Aundi!

Here are some things that might be helpful for you to know about me: 

I am a deep thinker and deep feeler. Sometimes I get bored with small talk. I love stories, people, counseling, theology and my precious family. I find myself constantly amazed by God’s faithfulness in my life. I write, think, and chew on this often.  I believe that Jesus is my ultimate hope and healer. 

I am a licensed professional counselor in Castle Rock, CO and attended Denver Seminary for my graduate education. I am married to the love of my life and have a daughter and son who are the joy of my heart. 

My hope for this blog is to create a space to dig into hard, funny, and imperfect things. 

My work has been featured on Relevant, CT Women,  The Huffington Post, The Mudroom, Happy Sonship and Circling the Story.

Enjoy! I hope you’ll stay awhile. 

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Rest can be a tricky topic, especially for trauma Rest can be a tricky topic, especially for trauma survivors. Many people deeply desire rest, but often, it hasn’t been safe to fully let their bodies settle in the past. Patterns like staying on high alert, over functioning, pushing ourselves beyond our limits, perhaps even shaming ourselves to keep going has often been necessary in order to navigate difficult, disturbing, or even traumatic experiences or systems. 
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This makes a lot of sense. 
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Our bodies are tenacious in their desire to help us survive.
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And yet, sometimes, even when we’ve left a system or we actually have the capacity to rest in the present—we may continue to live in that hyper alert state. This, too, is common when an experience hasn’t fully processed in our body. Even more complicated, sometimes the present isn’t fully safe either. Yet, as we are able, finding ways to let our body be nourished by rest is essential to the healing process. Often we need to do this little by little. This is called titration, it’s part of the way we show our bodies that it’s safe to tolerate rest—and there is no shame in this approach. Often, it’s what allows us to fully embody a new way of being. 
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If this is an area of growth for you, I hope you can give yourself permission to get curious around how you can integrate even small pockets of rest into your life. Because, in the way and the pace you are able: rest is a part of healing.
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If it feels like a resource to you:
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Inhale: I can honor my limits.
Exhale: God is here, too. 
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed #exhale #rest
May it be so. 🫶🏻 #TakeWhatYouNeed #LoveYourNeighbo May it be so. 🫶🏻 #TakeWhatYouNeed #LoveYourNeighborASYourself #TrySofter #StronglikeWater #fawning
I’m channeling both fierce & tender self compassio I’m channeling both fierce & tender self compassion today* — so I thought I’d leave these here in case you might need some, too. As always, take what you need. 
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Also, that first slide introduced to me by the wonderful @heysarahcarter is *chef’s kiss*
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*Dr. Kristin Neff, one of the utmost researchers in the field of self-compassion, calls the combination of fierce and tender self-compassion caring force 🕯️
#fierceselfcompassion #selfcompassion #trysofter #takewhatyouneed #stronglikewater
These are for you, if you’re feeling the weariness These are for you, if you’re feeling the weariness of these days or the reality of the pain in our world. May Compassion be a fuel that allows us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.💛
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Which of these resonate with you today? As always, take what you need, and set down what doesn’t. 
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Aaaaand, just one month late: Happy 1 year anniversary to “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days.” 🥳 I’m so proud and grateful for this little book. Thank you to each of you who’ve shared about it, left reviews, and reminded me why it’s mattered to you. I’m so honored. If you haven’t already, I’d love for you to check it out (link in stories and profile 🌻) @tyndalehouse 
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(These affirmations aren’t from the book, but they were inspired by the spirit of it.)
#takewhatyouneed #trysofter #stronglikewater
In our culture, tenderness is often viewed as a li In our culture, tenderness is often viewed as a liability, even and especially the tenderness we gain from healing. But the paradox is, the softness we gain is actually the source of some of our greatest strength. Selah. 
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed #loveyourneighborasyourself
Healing work is not only about us, but make no mis Healing work is not only about us, but make no mistake — it must include us; it must include the relationship we have with ourselves. 
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At the pace you are able, may your healing come. 
#TrySofter #Stronglikewater #TakeWhatYouNeed #fawning #cptsd
I realize I’m breaking the rules of instagram by p I realize I’m breaking the rules of instagram by posting two selfies in a row, but today is my 43rd birthday so I’m gonna just do the thing. ✌🏻 I’ll say this, it was a hell of a year. I feel proud and grateful, and also, more than a little tired. Waking up to news of wars, widespread sexual abuse cover ups, and the weaponization of a faith I hold dear will do that to anyone paying attention. But also, something I’ve learned as a long term survivor of cPTSD, is how much it matters to hold onto my center; my God-given self. I’ve learned that abuse teaches us to leave ourselves, and we often do, just so we can survive. Which is why it is some of the most sacred work of my life to, by the grace of God, choose to stay instead. 
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And so that is how I’m entering this year: tenaciously committed to the life + self God has given me, to the people around me, to the work that is a privilege to do. To, as the prophet Micah once wrote, “act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”
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Thanks to each of you who have been here, who have supported my work, who have spoken life into me. I do not take it lightly. Grateful. xx
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed
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Pink shirt in 1st photo is from @treetopscollective (check out their important work on behalf of refugees in the Grand Rapids, MI. Also, this isn’t an ad, I just love their work :)
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