There’s a cost to being a certain kind of strong.

When it comes to difficult circumstances, we’ve all heard the platitudes: “No pain, no gain.” “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” But if we spend our lives trying to be “the strong one,” we become exhausted, burned-out, and disconnected from our truest selves.

What if it were different?

Could there be a different way to be strong? Could strength mean more than pushing on and pushing through pain, bearing every heavy burden on our own? What if, instead, true strength were more like the tide: soft and bold, fierce and gentle, moving together as one powerful force?

In Strong like Water, author and trauma therapist Aundi Kolber offers a framework for true flourishing. With each page, you’ll:

  • Learn how your nervous system shapes your experience so that we can move through pain instead of being stuck in it.
  • Explore various practices, rhythms, and resources to support you in challenging circumstances with compassion and hope.
  • Discover how to internalize connection, love, and safety―empowering you with greater resilience.

A different, more expansive way of healing, wholeness, and possibly―especially―strength is possible.

We were made to be strong like water.


Strong like Water is available now wherever books are sold, including your favorite independent bookseller and these sites:

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What People Are Saying

A beautiful gift for anyone who has felt like they have to stay strong to survive

Strong like Water is a beautiful gift for anyone who has felt like they have to stay strong to survive. With wisdom drawn from her own story and her clinical expertise, Aundi Kolber reimagines strength as a dance of tenacity and tenderness, of holding tight and of learning to release. This brave and insightful journey through resilience is a revelation―one that honors both the grit it takes to survive and the compassion it takes to heal.

Dr. Alison Cook
psychologist and author of The Best of You and Boundaries for Your Soul

An encouraging guide that will help you gracefully navigate life

Strong like Water is such a timely book as so many of us deal with the pressure of needing to be the “strong one” in one way or another. This book is an encouraging guide that will help you gracefully navigate the many experiences of life that call for strength.

Morgan Harper Nichols
artist and writer

Strong like Water adds direction, lightness, and hope to a worthwhile journey

Kendra Adachi

I was deeply moved reading Strong like Water and felt comfort and confidence from Aundi’s practical, compassionate words. The work of healing and integration often feels heavy, like it’s easier left undone, but Strong like Water adds direction, lightness, and hope to a worthwhile journey.

Kendra Adachi
New York Times bestselling author of The Lazy Genius Way and The Lazy Genius Kitchen

A personally moving, healing, and formative experience

Steve Carter

I’ve never had such a personally moving, healing, and formative experience while reading a book. Aundi offers wisdom on every page as well as practices for your mind, heart, body, and soul that will help guide you through pain and that embody what true flourishing and resilience are all about.

Steve Carter
pastor and author of The Thing Beneath the Thing

This book will speak to your soul

With careful thought and gentle intention, Aundi is a trusted guide who distills what she’s learned as a trauma-informed therapist. If you’re feeling like you’re holding the weight of the world, Strong like Water will speak to your soul, offer needed resources, and invite you into the sacred work of healing.

Kayla Craig
author of To Light Their Way

Strong like Water is both an anchor and a lighthouse

In a culture full of conflicting messages about the value of strength, where to find it, and how to use it, Strong like Water is both an anchor and a lighthouse. Aundi’s book is full of gentle, resourceful tools and generously offered stories. What a gift this book is for all the weary souls who aren’t sure if they have what it takes or what they need, or are afraid of what they might find within themselves.

Tasha Jun
author of Tell Me the Dream Again

Practical tools to move from simply coping to gaining embodied strength

Strong like Water beautifully acknowledges the courage that survival requires and offers practical tools to move from simply coping to gaining embodied strength. Over your own deep waters, Kolber’s voice will rise as a wise and gentle guide, calling forth your inner strength and testifying to God’s redeeming love.

Clarissa Moll
author of Beyond the Darkness

This is a book I need

The process of navigating hard things is not a linear path for any of us, but with clarity, resources, research, and the deepest wells of compassion, Aundi lends her heart and expertise as she guides us through this road map of healing and discovery in her latest offering. Strong like Water contains truths that ultimately lead us back to ourselves and the ever-present reminder that God has and always will be with us on our journey of becoming more beautifully human in the midst of adversity. This is a book I need now and will surely return to as often as necessary.

Patricia A. Taylor
writer and antiracism educator

The gentle way of hope awaits

Shannan Martin

Strong like Water is a trustworthy guide away from fear and into the safe embrace of love, where healing resides. I will carry Aundi’s words into the corners of my everyday life—as a neighbor, parent, spouse, and friend. This book is for the hurting, the rattled, the stuck, the numb; which is to say, it’s for each one of us. All is not lost. The gentle way of hope awaits.

Shannan Martin
author of Start with Hello and The Ministry of Ordinary Places

Excellent, well-researched, and heartfelt.

Emily Freeman

In Strong like Water, Aundi Kolber emerges as one of the most trusted and approachable voices at the intersection of faith, trauma, and body-centered therapy. The practices alone are worth reading this excellent, well-researched, heartfelt book.

Emily Freeman
author and host of The Next Right Thing podcast

A gentle and self-compassionate approach

Chuck DeGroat

Aundi shows a way beyond “toughing it out” and “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” and it’s a gentle and self-compassionate approach. Ultimately, it’s the way of Jesus, and Aundi is a wonderful guide into it.

Chuck DeGroat, PhD, LPC
professor of pastoral care and Christian spirituality; interim D.Min. director, Western Theological Seminary