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Aundi Kolber

Aundi Kolber

Podcasts

You can find me at various podcasts by clicking on the links below:

Typology with Ian Morgan Cron

Coffee + Crumbs- Motherhood and Trauma

The Lazy Genius with Kendra Adachi

The Next Right Thing with Emily P. Freeman

At Sea with Justin McRoberts

When We Speak with Tasha Hunter

The Healing Trauma Podcast

Enneagram and Marriage

Your Enneagram Coach Podcast

That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs

The Faith and Healing Podcast

Our Island In The City Podcast

Craft and Character with Steve Carter

Go and Tell Gals with Jess Connolly

An Interview with Morgan Harper Nichols

Staying The Course Podcast

Restoring the Soul Interview, Part I

Restoring the Soul Interview, Part II

Restoring the Soul, Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole Part I

Restoring the Soul, Healing Trauma: Getting Unstuck and Becoming Whole Part II

Cultivated with Mike Cosper

Let’s Be Real with Nicole Unice

Unhurried Living Podcast

The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema

The Faith and Mental Wellness Podcast with Brittney Moses

The Puddcast with Jonathan Puddle

The Complicated Heart Podcast (EMDR)

Still Becoming with Monica DiCristina

Dear Daughters with Susie Davis

CXMH Podcast (trauma & attachment)

CXMH Podcast (Grief)

Nothing is Wasted Podcast

Fierce and Lovely

otherWISE with Casey Tygrett

Moms Struggling Well

The Crystal Paine Show

The Revelation Wellness Show

The Presence Project

This Good Word, Ep 153

This Good Word, Ep 214

Faith and Feminism, Ep 25

Faith and Feminism, Ep 68

Noises from the Attic , Ep 17

Noises from the Attic , Ep 41

Hope for the Lonely Podcast

She Walks In Truth with Carrie Robaina

Faith Conversations

Poema Podcast (Try Softer)

Poema Podcast (Grief)

Live it Well

Impossible Beauty

all shall be well

Kindled Podcast

Finding Holy with Ashley Hales

Changing Faith with Michael Hidalgo

Upside Down Podcast: Episode 36

Upside Down Podcast: Episode 44

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This last week I got to hold a copy of the newest This last week I got to hold a copy of the newest translation of “Try Softer” in Ukrainian & also celebrate it's translation into Korean*, too. What a deep honor.
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Perhaps even more moving for me, I heard how “Try Softer” is being utilized at a seminary in Ukraine to support counselors & pastors as they navigate the stress & trauma of ongoing war. I hate the reality of ongoing violence, and yet it is a privilege to be able to offer resources that can help folks as they travel through dark valleys. Grateful. 
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(A special thank you to Brian Smilde for delivering me a copy of a Ukrainian “Try Softer” — signed by his Ukrainian students no less. Brian shared with me that the title doesn’t directly translate, but instead reads: Be Softer to Yourself. May it be so.💛) 
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed #loveyourneighborasyourself
***As a correction, I'm embarrassed to say that I mixed up that this translation is in Korean not Japanese as I originally said in the post. Oof, being a human on the internet gives me lots of room to stay humble ;) 🌿
Rest can be a tricky topic, especially for trauma Rest can be a tricky topic, especially for trauma survivors. Many people deeply desire rest, but often, it hasn’t been safe to fully let their bodies settle in the past. Patterns like staying on high alert, over functioning, pushing ourselves beyond our limits, perhaps even shaming ourselves to keep going has often been necessary in order to navigate difficult, disturbing, or even traumatic experiences or systems. 
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This makes a lot of sense. 
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Our bodies are tenacious in their desire to help us survive.
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And yet, sometimes, even when we’ve left a system or we actually have the capacity to rest in the present—we may continue to live in that hyper alert state. This, too, is common when an experience hasn’t fully processed in our body. Even more complicated, sometimes the present isn’t fully safe either. Yet, as we are able, finding ways to let our body be nourished by rest is essential to the healing process. Often we need to do this little by little. This is called titration, it’s part of the way we show our bodies that it’s safe to tolerate rest—and there is no shame in this approach. Often, it’s what allows us to fully embody a new way of being. 
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If this is an area of growth for you, I hope you can give yourself permission to get curious around how you can integrate even small pockets of rest into your life. Because, in the way and the pace you are able: rest is a part of healing.
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If it feels like a resource to you:
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Inhale: I can honor my limits.
Exhale: God is here, too. 
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed #exhale #rest
May it be so. 🫶🏻 #TakeWhatYouNeed #LoveYourNeighbo May it be so. 🫶🏻 #TakeWhatYouNeed #LoveYourNeighborASYourself #TrySofter #StronglikeWater #fawning
I’m channeling both fierce & tender self compassio I’m channeling both fierce & tender self compassion today* — so I thought I’d leave these here in case you might need some, too. As always, take what you need. 
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Also, that first slide introduced to me by the wonderful @heysarahcarter is *chef’s kiss*
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*Dr. Kristin Neff, one of the utmost researchers in the field of self-compassion, calls the combination of fierce and tender self-compassion caring force 🕯️
#fierceselfcompassion #selfcompassion #trysofter #takewhatyouneed #stronglikewater
These are for you, if you’re feeling the weariness These are for you, if you’re feeling the weariness of these days or the reality of the pain in our world. May Compassion be a fuel that allows us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.💛
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Which of these resonate with you today? As always, take what you need, and set down what doesn’t. 
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Aaaaand, just one month late: Happy 1 year anniversary to “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days.” 🥳 I’m so proud and grateful for this little book. Thank you to each of you who’ve shared about it, left reviews, and reminded me why it’s mattered to you. I’m so honored. If you haven’t already, I’d love for you to check it out (link in stories and profile 🌻) @tyndalehouse 
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(These affirmations aren’t from the book, but they were inspired by the spirit of it.)
#takewhatyouneed #trysofter #stronglikewater
In our culture, tenderness is often viewed as a li In our culture, tenderness is often viewed as a liability, even and especially the tenderness we gain from healing. But the paradox is, the softness we gain is actually the source of some of our greatest strength. Selah. 
#trysofter #stronglikewater #takewhatyouneed #loveyourneighborasyourself
Healing work is not only about us, but make no mis Healing work is not only about us, but make no mistake — it must include us; it must include the relationship we have with ourselves. 
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At the pace you are able, may your healing come. 
#TrySofter #Stronglikewater #TakeWhatYouNeed #fawning #cptsd
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