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Aundi Kolber

Aundi Kolber

July 10, 2018 ·

Interview: EMDR {On the Weary Christian}

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I’m privileged to have been interviewed recently by Christian Heinze over at The Weary Christian: 


If you haven’t heard of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) you soon will, and if you have, you might have tried it, and if you’ve tried it, it could have helped change your life.

Psychotherapists use EMDR as a way of treating a patient’s traumatic memories — among other things — and it’s pretty much the hottest thing on the block right now. As of 2012, there were over 60,000 trained EMDR clinicians and at least 2 million treated patients. And the field keeps growing and growing.

So what is it?

I asked EMDR specialist, writer, and speaker, Aundi Kolber, to tell me a little bit more about how this relatively new treatment is helping patients process traumatic memories, depression and anxiety. And why Christians shouldn’t fear it.

Read on…

WC: What is EMDR?

AUNDI KOLBER:  EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. It was originally discovered and researched by Dr. Francine Shapiro in 1987.

Essentially, when something traumatic or disturbing occurs, we often don’t process it like normal memories. This is because it becomes stuck in our nervous system with all the original pictures, noises, smells, and feelings.

Since it is stuck in our bodies, it can easily be triggered by new events that remind us of the original event. This can be the reason for a lot of discomfort and negative emotions in our lives that we can’t seem to control. These intense feelings are really the emotions connected with the original experience being triggered.

EMDR utilizes eye movements or other bilateral stimulation (BLS) to stimulate both sides of the brain and body intermittently and help the nervous system become unlocked.

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